I love this quote from the show The Fosters: âDNA doesnât make a family. Love does.â
Recently, I realized how accurate this quote is. For far too long, I craved a âchosen family.â Everyone around me seemed to have one â and they all celebrated birthdays and holidays together and went on adventures.Â
It took me years to find my âchosen family.â I realized that I needed to stop trying to fit people into this family I was trying to create that didnât belong.Â
I have created two chosen families but one of those families started at the roughest point in my life. When I lost my brother, I needed outside support from other siblings who had also lost siblings. This small group of people who have become family just got what I went through, and they helped me through all of the challenges that I faced following my loss.
These two groups of friends who became my âchosen familiesâ always help me when I canât talk to my biological family or when Iâm struggling. If it werenât for them, I highly doubt that I could have made it through these last couple of years. Iâm forever grateful for my friends and all they do for me.Â
What I love about finding âchosen familiesâ is that you can include people from different stages of your life.
This family that you make can grow, expand, and evolve together as you all move through life. The most important thing to remember is that no matter what changes for you and your âfriend family,â they will always be there for you in any way they can.
Older generations may think that creating your own family seems odd, but not everyone has a biological family that can support them in the ways that they need. Even people with wonderful biological families may need some outside perspective or crave a tight-knit group of friends to whom they can take any problem. Your closest friends may understand what youâre facing better than your family ever could. The people who love you in your biological family arenât going anywhere, and having a âchosen familyâ doesnât make your biological familyâs role in your life any less important.
 DNA doesnât define a family â your heart does. Your family is the group of people who makes you feel at home, and when you choose your family, thereâs nothing more beautiful than that at the end of the day.
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